Why Putting the Blame on Others is the Shortest Way to Failure

putting-the-blame-on-othersSuccessful people take responsibility for their results, whether positives or not. Other people put the blame on others, whether in the circumstances, governments, employees and friends, but they never look at themselves and take responsibility for their results. By taking responsibility you enter in a totally different dimension and much more rewarding.

Have you ever caught yourself putting the blame on others because of an unwanted result without look at yourself and analyze what you could have done to avoid it? I’ve done it for sure. Surely after you putting the blame on people who maybe have not to do you feel a kind of relief, but that does not resolve the problem, and guess what, the bad habit will make you repeat the process.

This brings me to another analogy, what it can compared with the process of putting blame on others is to find excuses or as I use to say, telling “good stories” for a particular unsatisfactory outcome. People love creating justifications, such as “I was born in the wrong neighborhood”, “I got a miserable childhood”, “I do not have the right degree”, “the economy does not help me” and so others. Let me ask you, what the result you’ll get presenting an excuse like that? I think the answer is obvious.

Telling “good stories” to unwanted outcomes seems to be an alternative to escape from responsibility. And you may be saying “but these stories are true”. If focus on the stories, you’ll end up getting more of the same, in other hands, failure or whatever the problem is. When you focus on and provide energy to a given situation, it grows and gives us more of the same. You must focus and only focus on your goal, the obstacles or “good stories” must give way.

So, every time you catch yourself telling a good excuse or putting the blame on others for a particular result, remember that you will not be taking responsibility for your outcomes and you’ll end up receiving more of the same in the future. When you accept the responsibility, questions begin to arise, such as: how can I do it differently, how can I get this or that result. In other words, you’ll start focusing on what really matters.

 September 4, 2010

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